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Tuesday, June 19, 2012

Father's Day Fail

It's been so long since I've blogged that I wondered if I'd remember how!  Going back to work has made my days a lot busier.  Trying to find a balance and manage my time well is a full-time job in itself!  In conjunction with that, we are smack dab in the middle of session (aka Dan's busy time), so a lot of times I've been in charge of both drop off and pick up for Lilly as well as single parenting until she goes to bed.  Admittedly, it's only 2 hours after the workday is over (2.5 max) because she goes to bed at 7:30 normally, but then there's always dinner to cook and preparations to be made for the next day (washing bottles and pump parts, putting together clean bottles and pump parts for the following day, doing laundry, packing lunch, etc.).  Honestly I have just been so exhausted after all of the aforementioned activity that all I want to do is go to bed!

I have lots to catch up on, but I thought I'd start with Father's Day.  I was pregnant last year on Father's Day, but we hadn't told anyone yet.  Still, I got Dan a gift and was so excited about it.  This year was even more special because it was his first real Father's Day - that is, we have an actual baby instead of a fetus.  :-)  

In my head, I had really good intentions of a lovely day.  I'd cook him breakfast, we'd do whatever he wanted to do, maybe take the baby to the park and have a picnic, open his lovely and oh-so-thoughtful gift and I'd make whatever he wanted for dinner. In reality, we were out of town yet again (not a single weekend in town so far since May due to weddings and wedding-related activities for my little sis!), so his first Father's Day was not quite the fairytale I envisioned.

Fail #1: we spent most of the day in the car.  Our wedding this past weekend was outside of Statesville (it was so beautiful and we had so much fun, aside from one small disaster which I will blog about later in the week - congrats to Bek & Kyle, we love you!), so Lilly and I headed to Charlotte on Friday.  Dan was in DC for work at the end of last week, so on Saturday I picked Dan up at the airport and we went straight to Statesville to check into our hotel.  So, on Sunday morning, we drove from Statesville to Charlotte, packed Lilly up and hopped in the car to head home.  We made a stop for a couple of hours in Asheboro to see my grandparents and to wish Papa a happy father's day and a happy belated birthday.  By the time we got home, it was 4:00.  We unpacked the car, let Lilly rest for a little bit outside of the car seat, and then took a family trip to the grocery store to stock up for the week.  Not quite a picnic in the park, right?  

To make matters worse, we couldn't decide what we wanted for dinner, even though I kept telling Dan I would make whatever he wanted and that he should choose.  In the end he decided on hot dogs, which meant he cooked while I got Lilly to bed.  Fail #2.

The biggest fail yet of all was the gift.  What you have to understand about Dan is that he's pretty hard to shop for.  He doesn't normally want a whole lot, and what he does want, he gets for himself.  I have been rather proud of myself over our 8 years of being together at my ability to surprise him, and I consider myself to be a good gift giver.  I would say that since we've been married, for whatever reason he's been harder to shop for.  Still, I was excited about this gift.  Last year for Dan's birthday, his parents got him a golf lesson at the Ballantyne Resort in Charlotte.  He plays golf a lot for work, so it was the perfect gift.  He finally remembered to take his certificate with us a few weeks ago when we were in Charlotte for Katy & Josh's couples shower, so he booked a lesson and he LOVED it.  He talked about that lesson and how effective it was for days.  He said he would love to have another, and that they also have this program where the instructor will play 9 holes with you, and he thought that sounded super cool.  So, sneaky wife that I am, I got him a gift certificate so that he could choose whether he wanted another lesson or to play 9 holes.  Fail #3: he was super disappointed with this gift.

In Dan's defense, he tried really hard not to seem disappointed, but I know him well enough that I was able to tell.  I think it was partially due to the fact that the golf lesson is in Charlotte, and while we love my family we are currently super burnt out on traveling, so that may have played into it as well.  It was probably also partially due to the fact that we were both exhausted.  Either way, I apologized profusely for ruining his first father's day and went to hide in the bathroom so I could cry in peace.

Dan will probably be super annoyed with me for writing this post.  He keeps insisting that he loved his first father's day, and I genuinely think that he did, I think it's more that it wasn't what I wanted it to be for him.  Next year, I vow to be a little more prepared.    Like I said, I had big plans for the day, and it just so happened that nothing worked out.  It happens.  We went with it.  The bright side?  He loved the card I got him.  Next year, I will plan better and knock his socks off!  

Hope you're having a great week so far...almost hump day!


1 comment:

  1. If it makes you feel any better...I spent more than half of Jon's first father's day in the bed/barfing! HA! ;)


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